“Comparison will strip you of power of grace and influence. Each person is unique. How then can you possibly compare unique to unique? You can’t. And when you try, you annihilate your brilliance.” ~ Amy Larson The deeper we travel inward on our personal development journey, we begin to see that no emotion or feeling happens by accident. Every outer situation that prompts an emotion inside of us is seen as another opportunity for us to heal something or become conscious of something inside of us that we may have been repressing or afraid to look at. And we can be assured that any emotion that we have either judged as “wrong” or “bad”, or been afraid to face and feel, will continue to surface in us until we have faced it head on and felt it to completion. No feeling just goes away without being healed properly through raising to a vibration where said emotion can no longer exist. For anyone who has been able to access limiting subconscious belief systems that have been holding them back in life, it is no surprise that all emotions are stemming from a faulty belief system that is out of alignment with the “truth” of who they are. Peace, perfection and pure happiness is actually our natural state of being so anything that has us feeling anything other than complete bliss can only be an indication that our ego has attached itself to a belief that is based in fear, unworthiness or doubt. One of the most painful and frustrating emotions of all to deal with is jealousy. To feel as though you want something that you cannot have in that moment can feel completely dissatisfying, unfulfilling, and all around deprived. But what is the root cause of jealousy? What is the underlying belief that we are holding about life that prompts jealousy to occur? Decoding our emotions and pinpointing the root cause or belief that is out of alignment is what will eventually bring about lasting transformation and healing within our energy fields. Stop comparing yourself “If you compare yourself to others, you may become vain and bitter for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.” ~ Maxx Ehrmann The first thing jealousy relies on in order to exist inside of our psyche is comparison. To feel jealous is to compare what you have with what someone else has and to feel as though what you have is not enough. Now of course comparison can feel great when we are the ones coming out on top but with all highs must come a low. The more our ego has built its identity by pinpointing the imperfections of others, the more painful it is when the universe throws a humbling circumstance in your direction only to allow you to see both sides of the spectrum. It is usually when we are so attached to being amazing at everything, that we have the hardest time dealing with seeing others succeed at something they could not or getting something they wish they had. Jealousy also comes from an ego that reinforces its sense of self by seeing how less it is than others. When you feel inferior to others it can be common to experience some level of jealousy when the blessings you see others receiving remind you of your own unworthiness and undeservedness. Comparison can only arise from an ego that does not realize it’s own uniqueness. All beings are not only completely unique and special but every journey is different. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to live life, there is only what is right and wrong for you. By making peace with the fact that your journey has been customized to the soul lessons that you have signed up to partake in during this incarnation here, it makes it a lot easier to stay focused on your own evolution and growth. The only comparison that is beneficial is between us and former selves. Listen to What Your Heart Is Really Trying to Say The ego has often been called the inner child inside of our hearts that is begging for our attention. If each emotion is approached as such it becomes an easier and more effective way for us to heal the emotions inside of us that are arising in our awareness. In the instance of jealousy if we can imagine the words “I want what they have,” being said by our inner child it begins to unravel what jealousy is really trying to tell us. Jealousy is indicating that the attention and love that our inner child is asking for is being given to someone else’s life. If all of our concern and energy is being focused on the life of another person our inner child can begin to feel neglected. “I want what they have,” decoded, is actually our inner child saying, “I want the attention that you are constantly giving to other people’s lives.” In this respect we can see that the amount of jealousy we feel towards someone else is directly proportionate to the lack of love we have given our own hearts. If we can imagine a real child that is never given love by their parent unless it is living up to the standards of others, it is easy to see how a child would begin to resent other people the parent compares him/her to. If a child is only validated when it has lived up to someone else’s level of “success” then the child is never celebrated for his/her own unique gifts. This is exactly how our own inner child feels when we compare it to those whose journey’s have nothing to do with ours. By spending time complimenting ourselves and recognizing our unique talents and gifts rather than focused on the perceived blessings of others, we will begin to transform jealousy into confidence in our own selves and faith in our own lives. All Emotions are Here to Help You By approaching each emotion as another opportunity for us to heal something inside of us we will begin moving through a transformative healing process faster than we can ever imagine. There is nothing “wrong” with being jealous, it is only a natural emotion that every one of us will experience at some point or another. However, instead of repressing or running from jealousy we instead begin recognizing it as a signal that we may be spending too much of our time focused on the wrong person or people, we will begin to raise to a level of consciousness where an emotion such as jealousy no longer needs to exist. Image sources: Jealousy in a Tear Drop gazing at herself green with envy eyes be you love your heart
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